When we first think of romance, what comes to mind? Romantic movies or fairy tales? I think for women, our idea of romance is often tainted because of this "ideal." Then, we are disappointed when our marriage doesn't quite look like the idea we've conjured in our head.
If I were to say that romance is commitment, that may simply be a turn off to many people, especially non-Christians. Our culture is so indulged in immediate gratification and spontaneity, that we find it hard to think that working for something long term is romantic. God is not against short term gratification or spontaneity, but He does have something more in mind.
When my husband and I were married, I wrote a song titled "My Father's Love" for our wedding. The song's theme expressed that I can know how to love my husband because I have the love of the Father within me. I have experienced God's love and will now pour that love into my husband. This is why it's important to be equally yolked.
Romance is commitment. Okay, but what does this look like on a daily basis? Well, romance is delightful and exciting. It is something we choose to chase after and not something we wait for and see how we "feel." I choose to be committed to my husband, and by that standard, I will chase after him all my life. I look forward to him coming through the door at the end of his work day because he is my man, not anyone else's. That is romance. When we disagree, we often say to each other, "I'd rather disagree with you than anyone else." That is romance. It carries with it our commitment to each other through good or bad, rich or poor, sickness and health. You remember right? - those traditional wedding vows that so many have forsaken?
There is security in romance. My husband and I have a relationship that makes us one. No one else can share this bond. When we close our bedroom door, no one else can share that intimacy. It is a deep, wonderful, shared experience saved only for the marriage union. What a beautiful thing God has created!
Has the romance dwindled in your marriage? Maybe your idea of romance is wrong altogether. Chase your man with gusto, and remind him how much you choose to love him because God has loved you.