My Personal Story:
I found it pretty easy to be submissive early in my marriage. Then after several years, we suddenly faced a decision that we couldn't agree on. We both felt strongly about our stance - so strong in fact that neither of us was willing to budge. I felt sure my husband was in the wrong. After all, I could back my position with scripture.
This is a very difficult position to be in. For years, I wondered how I could be obedient to God and obedient to my husband at the same time when I felt like they were in opposition to each other. God has given much wisdom in this area through His Word, prayer, fasting, and time. I hope that what I have to share will benefit you in your marriage.
Obedience to My Husband is Obedience to God:
In order to obey God, we must obey our husbands - even when they may be wrong. Consider 1 Peter 3:1-6:
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel--rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
My point here is that Sarah obeyed Abraham even when she must have seen the wrong in his decision. Can you imagine what she may have been feeling? Despite the hardship that Abraham's decision placed upon the other parties involved, Sarah was obedient. God wants us to be obedient as well.
Obedience Calls for a Gentle and Quiet Spirit:
If we are truly being submissive to our husbands, then we should portray a certain attitude toward him. A gentle and quiet spirit is a great gift to our husbands. This spirit will not tear down our husbands or make snappy comments. It will not be sarcastic or rude. A gentle and quiet spirit will not be angry or cause us to pitch a fit and yell. Instead, we will show love with our actions and let our words be few.
The Reward of Submission:
Being submissive isn't easy. I can attest to that. But it is worth it. God will bless us for being obedient to His Word in this area. In fact, one blessing is that our conduct may even win our husbands to the Lord. I believe this means in salvation (if they aren't already), but it can also hold true in other areas of obedience to God's Word. How cool is that!