Why do we do this? Many times I've found myself taking my husband, Jeremy, for granted. I realize that maybe I've had a tendency to focus on the negative things over the positive. The busyness of life is sometimes a factor in this. Sometimes I just forget to appreciate the blessings in front of me. When I've found myself in that place, I've had to repent and ask God to help me.
Have you been there? Here are some things that might help you refocus your thoughts toward the man that God has joined you with.
First, focus on the positives. What does he do right? Make a list (mentally or on paper) of things your husband does that blesses you. Look hard. Remind yourself of your favorite things about him even before you were married.
Second, let your husband know you appreciate him. Tell him thank you. Express to him what you like about him. Let him know that you feel blessed because you have him. Do things to please your husband.
Third, focus on your marriage. This may mean you have to slow down in your busyness of life. Children are a blessing, and they require a lot from us, but don't be so entrapped in mothering or working that you forget your marriage.
Most importantly, ask God to help you. Pray for your attitude. Pray for your husband. Pray for your marriage. God gave you this man, so safeguard your thoughts toward him. Romans 12:2 tells us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. Cultivate tender thoughts toward your spouse and love him as God's Word instructs us. Part of loving him is not taking him for granted.
Are you taking your husband for granted today? Try to put these things I've mentioned into practice. Pray and watch God transform you. Would you like for me to pray for you? Send me a message, and I'll be glad to!